[Mithaldu]

> I don't see myself as a kind person and asking me to spend extra mental energy

If you can't be kind, then the preferred action from you is for you to save your energy for the days when you can be kind. That's better for everyone involved.

[GyYZTfWBfQw]

Define "kind" and define "better for everyone".

[Mithaldu]

If you don't know the meaning of those yet, save your energy for the day when you do.