| Love this post, and I hope my thoughts can help. I am fairly recent Comp Sci grad who is probably one of the most well liked guys in my Fraternity, as well as other frats. Do you think I can improve and should try to complete the pledge process? Yes and yes. If you guys think I should go for it, how can I "catch up" socially? What do I need to learn and how? A few things: 1) Think before you talk/act, aka, don't do anything stupid/embarrassing. I see so many guys just blurt shit out that they think is funny, but actually makes people (girls) feel super uncomfortable. 2) Be nice. Always. Don't be condescending or every try and look down on others. Be polite and a gentleman. Don't try and be some macho dick head guy like alot of the other frat guys are. The more you help your brothers out (as well as other fraternity guys) the more they will have your back. 3) Figure out who some of the most well liked guys in the fraternity are, watch them, learn from them. Emulate (not imitate) and build on the things they say and do. 4) Be confident, but not cocky. 5) Careful on the drinking and such. Start off in smaller groups so you can get the hang of it. Once you know how much you can tolerate, then you can start drinking in larger groups and start letting lose. 6) Chicks are really starting to dig nerds, as long as your cool about it. Embrace it, just don't go overboard with it. BTW, your obviously not truly an introvert, otherwise you probably would be having the urges to change. You prolly just went to some shitty high school with shitty people. College is a great time to really find yourself, and be yourself. I hope some of these words will help, and if you wanna talk more, let me know. Hell, I love road trips, I'll come drink and party with a hacker anytime. Curious, who did you pledge? |