[amrithk]

It depends. A few months ago, my current room-mate had an idea for a startup. We decided to move in together as it would be easier to brainstorm ideas, code, and plan what we needed to do. Both of us have full-time day-jobs and we work on week-nights and week-ends on our idea.

We have been pretty good so far in seperating work from our personal activities. We both make sacrifices to move our project forward. At the same time however, we don't interfere with each other's personal issues and activities. It takes some time to have a good arrangement and the best thing to do would be to communicate your expectations to the developer, and also listen to what he wants in terms of a working relationships. Lastly, I would recommend doing social things together with your developer. For example, you could have dinners with your developer and boyfriend. Such activities strengthen the working relationship and inspire everyone to continue working on the project.

[rksprst]

If she was good friends with the developer then I would agree with you, but from what I could tell from her post, the developer is not a friend but someone she probably met and hired online. In that case, I would definitely say no to moving in together.

[rglullis]

I hope I won't be misunderstood, but I wouldn't be so sure to call the poster a "she". There is nothing in the post that guarantees that the poster is female. Is there?

[ardit33]

True. I learnt this in my second week in SF. At my first salsa lesson, we split in two lines, between "leaders" and "followers", to match up, and I see this guy in front of me. Me: You are in the wrong line Him: No, I am not. I hope it is ok with you

umm...... ok, sure.... it was kinda awkward,

[a-priori]

This is getting off-topic, but...

A couple years ago my girlfriend and I took swing dancing lessons. Although I normally led, for one of the exercises everyone switched roles; I learnt to follow, and she learnt to lead. That was probably the single most helpful exercise of that class.

[rksprst]

You're right. I just assumed that if it wasn't a girl, I would be corrected. But you're right, I should err on the side of caution.