[JamesVI]

It depends on whether your boss is competent or not.

Generally, yes. You should be able to discuss this with your immediate manager and they should (1) understand or (2) educate themselves.

This evening I had a long conversation with a direct report about problems he is having with his girlfriend. It’s impacting his work and his health. I can help him and direct him to additional resources that help him more. It also provides context to the time off he needs.

If you are uncomfortable discussing these kinds of issues with your boss, find a new boss. Understanding you, your motivation and challenges is literally what they are paid for.