This is the problem with using the government to enforce any kind of grey aria social issue. We all have different definitions for sexual deviants, or reasonable drug use, etc...
I'm sure the above comment has some sort of religious background, and genuinely believes people on those subs are deviants.
theredpill promotes violence? I've lurked long enough to wonder why people say that. I'm sure you can cherry pick some comments but to say the sub promotes violence? It just doesn't stand up to real life. Most of the subs that people say horrible things about I go seek out to find out the real story and find out the mods might have their work cut out for them but they work hard to stay in the community guidelines. A thankless task for sure.
The worst examples of theredpill are very similar to the worst examples of modern radical feminism. The whole "men/white people must die" contingent you see on tumblr. If you can ignore them and still take feminism seriously, you can ignore the crazies on TRP as well. Let's relax with the double standard.
The reason why people don't take Tumblr seriously is because white males like myself are a socially dominant and often armed plurality of the country. It's also kind of farcical to think of women eliminating men, society would dissolve in a generation, so it's easy to regard this kind of talk as simply sublimated angst that is an exaggerated response to real concerns.
However, when this kind of talk comes from the socially dominant and aforementioned armed folk, it is much more of a serious matter simply because we have a history of actually doing the kinds of violent, enslaving, and oppressive things we claim we'll do.
I'm not clear what you're trying to get at. That a bunch of keyboard jockeys trying to figure out how to get a date through Internet forum advice will arm themselves, uprise and violently enslave and oppress the populace? What exactly are you afraid will happen?
The argument is a little more subtle than that though I didn't explicate it above. It's that the keyboard jockies provide a base and advocate for politicians that will.
Can you give me an example of redditors looking for dating advice being politically motivated to vote for politicians who are in favor of violence and oppressing women and minorities? Where are you getting this information and what exactly are the facts to back this conjecture?
You're drawing a very tenuous thread between all of these different concepts. It is FUD until there's evidence of this actually happening.
TRP on Reddit is a pickup forum (cough 'sexual strategy'). I don't know anyone saying 'this kind of talk' if you mean armed uprisings or similar. Are you thinking of a different sub?
> It's also kind of farcical to think of women eliminating men
If you actually scratch beneath the surface of TRP you'll see that the concern is not "women eliminating men" but men elminating other men and women being complicit in that.
I take issue with prostitution in the US, but not for the moral reasons you’d think; it’s under the guise of free will, when someone shouldn’t have to prostitution themselves out of economic necessity (or in a lot of SugarBaby cases, to pay for college or student loans).
If we’re going to crack down on exploitation of children in the sex industry, when do we expand that to adults who have no other choice? It’s not free will if your only other option is homelessness or to starve.
TL:DR Exploitation must be protected against. Not against sex work in general.
There is something I find particularly revolting about sexual exploitation, having both your dignity and your agency taken from you.
My issue is not with wage labor (at least, not for this thread). My concern is where the sex work industry is contorted in certain ways into modern slavery with an unappealing twist.
As one sugar baby explained to me: I can either work crazy hours for minimum wage at Dairy Queen all month and barely cover rent and food. Or I can have an older guy take me to a Michelin star restaurant and hook up with him, and I'm set for the month in a span of a couple of hours. Have a couple of them on the hook and you're now in the luxury lifestyle territory which most people can only dream of.
It's an interesting conversation. We're ok with people doing extremely dangerous and abusive jobs for shitty pay. Miners, people roaming the sewers, people welding beams hundreds of feet in the air. Those are fine. But you give someone head for thousands of dollars so you don't have to flip burgers at McDonald's while you're in college, and suddenly you're a poor victim to stand up for.
My fuckfriend was an escort for about 3 years and I think most people have the same misconceptions that I had.
When I told her that she must have encountered some nasty customers, she said not that much because she didn't have a pimp and always chose her customers.
If the guy didn't look clean or she had a bad feeling, she would refuse to have sex with him.
Regulations like this are putting a strain on the "good" side of this work because it's making it harder for girls to operate independently since they can't post ads.
So they will have to operate with pimps that will feed them customers and make sure they are kept stoned enough to make them money hungry (and thus lowering their standards or at least make the choice harder for her).
Let's not kid ourselves, this bill has nothing to do with protecting sex workers or improving their lives.
Just like Cannabis, the problem will never go away, so you either regulate it or let the black market take care of it.
Belle du Jour made £300/hr. I remember her doing a Q&A for readers of the Sunday Times (for US people: an influential conservative newspaper in the UK). All anyone cared about was that she paid her taxes.
I'm completely against sexual exploitation as well. But prostitution, i.e., sex between consenting adults in exchange for money, has nothing whatsoever to do with sexual exploitation or slavery.
Sexwork is work, just like any other type of work.
As I tried to make very clear in my post, I have zero problem with sex work. I simply want it regulated in a way so it’s safe for sex workers, and they’re not coerced into the work.
I've thought about this a whole lot. If I understand your various comments here correctly, I agree with you that it should be allowed while not being exploitation.
The problem as I see it is that most people who feel that way will do what you are doing here and speak out against women being exploited. Meanwhile, there are still huge practical barriers to women making good money via other avenues.
Due to my compromised immune system, sex work is out of the question. If this were not true, I might well have moved to Nevada where it is legal because trying to get taken seriously as a woman, trying to network and make business connections, trying to get business people (who are mostly men) to engage me substantively, help me figure this out, open doors for me has gone just so painfully slowly and I remain dirt poor.
And it frustrates me to see these kinds of remarks here because I feel like most of what I say falls on deaf ears. On top of that, I get a lot of ugly push back where I get literally called a liar (quickly edited to merely say not honest) and accused of having a political agenda and told I need to just shut up about my life for some reason or other. Rich men express similar opinions, though often not in an actionable way, and that's basically OK even if others don't agree. I try to talk about it and try to say in practical terms "Hey, if you sincerely want to see women not be exploited and pushed into such choices, then other doors need be opening for us." and that's often all kinds of ugly drama.
But, seriously, how else do you think that works? I have stayed the course due to extraordinary circumstances giving me no other viable options. I wish to hell and back every single day that I had an easier answer that would make my life work.
I am not asking for charity. I am asking for help to become successful at earning a middle class income.
That's the missing piece here. Women need other doors to open. And if that isn't happening, then decrying sex work, one of the few well paid things reliably available to women, is just cutting off options and making things worse.
I don't understand why that seems so extremely hard to get through to people.
How do we get those doors open for women in order for them to have more opportunity? How do we make sure they have every opportunity available to them to experience a secure middle class lifestyle?
This issue strikes particularly close to home for me, as my mother took off for about a decade and worked odd jobs in Nevada while wrestling with mental health issues.
We need to get men and women engaging in conversation substantively with a default expectation that it is platonic. One of the problems is that men mostly don't really talk to women except to hit on them. I have run into this problem over and over that trying to engage men substantively often illicits romantic feelings on their part even though it's only a few replies in a public forum, never mind that I have been celibate 12.5+ years and I'm open about that.
My belief is that doors open for men based on two things: establishing trust and casually being exposed to a great deal more information pertinent to developing a career than women get exposed to. Both of these are rooted in the fact that most men can talk to other men a lot without sex interfering. Women can't really do that. Men either decide they aren't interested, and then barely speak to us, or they decide this is a negotiation for sex/romance if there is more than a tiny amount of conversation. It's a no win situation for a woman.
My experience has been that once a man is sexually or romantically interested in me, he's completely useless to me in terms of being a professional contact. I was romantically involved for a time with a man who had recently changed careers just a few months earlier. His previous career was the field I wanted to go into. No, he never read the paper I wrote that I asked him for feedback on.
Men who are romantically interested in me will not clue me, will not make vital introductions, will not give me meaningful feedback. Other men also mostly don't do those things for me because they barely know me, don't trust me (because they don't really know me), don't want to talk to me enough to get to know what I have to offer professionally, etc.
All of that boils down to I need men talking with me more with a strong assumption that it is platonic/professional, not romantic.
If you want to get rid of a large chunk of coerced sex-work, just make other options easier to attain, or give those sex workers support. But the US has an annoying trend of implimenting solutions without looking into whether that solution is effective.
I'd agree with you if people were forced into prostitution - and of course what you say does apply correctly to victims of human trafficking who are forced. But I don't think that's always the case.
Take a young woman who doesn't like school, doesn't like being a cashier or waitress, wants more money than she can get with the jobs available, etc, and she doesn't really connect promiscuity with indignity in the way that you're implying. Why should this woman be barred from what might be a lucrative and pleasant career just because you and others think it's undignified.
I might suffer from dignity issues if I had to work as a birthday clown, but some people enjoy it and that's great because some people want to hire birthday clowns. I think the same logic applies here.
But you present generalizations and assumptions specific to the scenarios that you describe without facts to back them up. The responder above presents a valid scenario that is no different than 15-20 years ago, college women with proper skills/looks/aptitude, might go work at the few strip clubs/bikini bars in the Bay Area while going to college.
I recall, while in college, being surprised by the roommate of a friend (who was a very good student) pulling in what was more than the highest CS grad made out of school when I graduated.
Exploitation is one thing, but this immediate jump to everything is exploitation is what leads to things like this particular law getting passed. Generalizations without facts.
The world is not black and white. Everything is shades of gray.
Some exploitation is more heinous than others.
If you’re chained to your 9 to 5, it sucks, but it’s not the end of the world.
If you’re a UN peacekeeper using candy to lure children into sexual relationships and then abandoning them and your resulting offspring (example taken from real world events), that is psycho/sociopath level exploitation.
If you’re a single mom and the landlord is harrasing you for sex to pay the rent, is that okay? Where do you place that on the exploitation scale?
>If you’re a single mom and the landlord is harrasing you for sex to pay the rent, is that okay? Where do you place that on the exploitation scale?
No one should be harassed. I would rather the woman have the option of selling sex in a clean work environment with healthcare and some say in who she sells to than having to choose between sleeping with her landlord or being homeless.
>If you’re a single mom and the landlord is harrasing you for sex to pay the rent, is that okay? Where do you place that on the exploitation scale?
People are in that situation where prostitution is illegal and they do it anyway. What's your alternative? To force the woman to do it in secret? To punish her and the John if they get caught? Should she be kicked out? The landlord made to accept no rent? The woman forced to spend another 20 hours at work away from her kids where she might've spent one or two?
It's a shame generally that people have to work for a living. I think that's one of the things "we" are racing to solve by improving technology and automation. I hope there'll be post-scarcity society with a basic income and nobody will be required to make any bad choices. We aren't there yet, so we should try to get there.
So men or women in the Congo, let's say someplace like Goma...
forced by warlords, let's say someone like Nkunda, to go into the mines... or die...
is less exploitative than a landlord asking a tenant for sex in your eyes?
Question was rhetorical. You obviously have a problem with the sexual dimension of the exploitation, and the people of eastern Congo don't face the choice of going into the mines or dying.
It's Nkunda... he offed them anyway, but they got to live a little longer if they went into the mines.
There will never a ideal society where everyone can eat and study for free. You're just removing one option for people ...
And when you re in trouble the more option you have the better.
First get an idealistic society where everyone can eat and have free education then we can discuss about removing this option ...
On the other hand, if we thought more critically, we'd realize both of those things are possible. In Europe people do have free education. We waste more food than we have hungry people. 1+1=2 ;)
Lots of people tell you not to dream big. It's ok to do it and to believe it's achievable.
>>when do we expand that to adults who have no other choice? It’s not free will if your only other option is homelessness or to starve.
But depriving them of the option of providing sexual services for pay is not protecting them.
The alternative, as you point out, is homelessness or to starve, and they would only choose the option of prostitution when they perceive it as less undesirable than these outcomes.
So you'd be forcing people into circumstances that they perceive as worse than prostitution, since in every other case, they would not be choosing prostitution anyway.
Of course they did-- Prostitutes, johns and pimps are sex criminals, just like pedophiles. Providing a platform for sex criminals is harmful to Society.
Huh, are you really this dense? Yes, they're criminals, because sex work is currently illegal (in the US at least). If it were not illegal, they would no longer be criminals. So how about we legalize it, then they won't be "sex criminals", and then you can stop crying about how your ideal authoritarian "Society" is crumbling because people are free to engage in consensual sex.
This is the problem with using the government to enforce any kind of grey aria social issue. We all have different definitions for sexual deviants, or reasonable drug use, etc...
I'm sure the above comment has some sort of religious background, and genuinely believes people on those subs are deviants.