[samueltew]

I'm dealing with a similar lack of options. I live in SF and am planning on moving to NYC sometime soon.

I don't think my friend ever even had a date in the 7 years he lived in SF. He told me he pretty much had given up. He moves to NYC, in two weeks, before his apartment even has furniture, he gets a girlfriend. If a girl finds out you are single there, she will push you to go on dates with her single girlfriends.

At many bars here, there may be 5 guys to every girl, and only 3 or 4 girls might be single. Of course they get a constant stream of guys hitting on them so if you are an average guy, you will be shut down immediately.

[MlEngineer]

> At many bars here, there may be 5 guys to every girl, and only 3 or 4 girls might be single. Of course they get a constant stream of guys hitting on them so if you are an average guy, you will be shut down immediately.

Haha, I'll take "SFBA experiences I definitely don't miss" for $800, Alex!

Your friend's experience is quite similar to my own. Dating life completely turned around as soon as I moved east.

This is such a striking and serious issue, I'm surprised there's not a whole lot more discussion of it. Are all these engineers happy to just move to SFBA, and then not have a single date for 7 years like your friend?

[J-dawg]

> I'm surprised there's not a whole lot more discussion of it.

As someone from outside the US who views "The Valley" as some kind of incredible utopia (ok, apart from the housing costs), I'm also very surprised by this. I imagine it would make a lot of single men think twice about moving there, if it was more widely discussed.