[MlEngineer]

I think I was hoping for an answer like "hey OP, there's this one effective way to date in the Bay you haven't tried..."

That hasn't happened. All data and most respondents with any actual experience in the Bay seem to confirm the conclusions from my own experience, that yes there's a big gender imbalance in the Bay, and yes it's a huge problem and the dating scene for heterosexual men is therefore far inferior to say most cities on the East Coast.

I may still decide to move back, seeing how important my career is and that the offer really is very attractive and may well be further sweetened should I initially refuse.

In that case it will just be a straight-up sacrifice of my romantic life for my career.