[ryanmccullagh]

If being a millionaire startup entrepreneur is something the women you're seeing care about, then you don't date these women. Also, five different men over the course of 10 days is a lot of dating. Are you sure they don't actually work for the dating site you're on (undercover)? What app did you use? Don't ever let anyone compare you to another person.

[MlEngineer]

> If being a millionaire startup entrepreneur is something the women you're seeing care about, then you don't date these women.

Let's be realistic here. Say you dated two women over the past couple of days. Both were equally attractive, smart, fun, and pleasant. However, one of them is a millionaire serial founder. The other is just a good engineer. You can only have one girlfriend. Which one do you choose?

I don't consider myself materialistic, but I can tell you I'd choose the entrepreneur. This level of success makes her more attractive. And women are attracted to success even more than men.

> Also, five different men over the course of 10 days is a lot of dating.

She was an extreme example that stunned me at the time, but she wasn't unusual. Women on SF OkCupid (the app I used) would get bombarded by thousands of messages. They could easily date a different guy every day of the week if they wanted to.

> Don't ever let anyone compare you to another person.

I do not, but there's no point sticking our head in the sand either. If I'm competing with 5 other men for every single woman in SF, and 2 of these men will be extremely successful entrepreneurs, then I'm going to have a bad time dating.

Which I absolutely did. Getting any dates at all on OkCupid was pretty much impossible south of SF. In SF itself, it was "merely" incredibly hard, and when I met the lady, I would often find out she had an astounding array of attractive options. This often led to them not ending up in any sort of serious relationship with me, and in some cases to unstable relationship, possibly because the lady was well aware of the stupefying amount of eager alternatives waiting for her out there the instant she decides to walk out over the most trivial of inconveniences.

I can speak about this with some confidence because as soon as I moved to the East Coast my dating life became almost the opposite of the above, especially when it comes to starting and maintaining relationships.

[riku_iki]

> Both were equally attractive, smart, fun, and pleasant.

They are not. Being "millionaire serial founder" will induce specific personality traits, and now it is up to you which type of women you prefer.

[MlEngineer]

That's just an example, though. Personally, I'm not looking for a woman who is a millionaire serial founder. But men who are extremely successful do have a huge advantage when it comes to dating, and especially finding a serious long-term partner.

There's no point pretending otherwise.

[paulcole]

> This level of success makes her more attractive. And women are attracted to success even more than men.

Just because this is true for you doesn't mean it's true for every woman.

[MlEngineer]

It doesn't have to be true for every woman, just enough of them to reduce my odds.

I'm not making any absolute claims here. I'm not 100% sure I won't meet a great woman in the Bay if I come back there, nor that every woman will reject me for a millionaire, etc. It's just that the odds of that are lower. Not zero, but lower.