[sevilo]

You come across as someone who is too calculating of dating and marriage, treating it like a engineering or mathematical problem. Sure, selecting the right partner to spend the rest of your life is very important and anyone should put some thought into it, but imo should not be treated as a game of calculation and trade, to me that really loses the sense of what makes us human. The part where you said have moved to east coast for a few years where the dating pool is not a problem, and yet you haven't settled on a long term partner makes me think the majority of the problem isn't with the dating pool itself (not that there's anything wrong with this lifestyle if that's what you like).

[MlEngineer]

The average age of first marriage for males in the US is 29, so I'm well within acceptable social bounds.

I'm not eager to get married next month, nor do I feign to be. I'm worried about making a decision to relocate to the Bay for several years and eventually running against this problem when I do want to get married.