[crawfordcomeaux]

I started working on active vs passive voice at the request of a therapist who recognized I was taking a very passive approach to life and thought the language shift might help with a mental shift. I found it helped me realize the ways I could change my behavior. Simply the act of monitoring and correcting my language was a practice in taking a more active role in my life.

I dropped most words with opposites as a practice in nonjudgment. I kept a few around, like "love" and "can" because they're useful. "Can't" implies a belief that something's impossible. Believing that can keep us from imagining ways things CAN happen. It's therefore not useful to adopt the belief of "can't" if we want to explore possibilities. Having an exploratory mindset is really helpful while trying to learn how to meet one's needs.

This approach is about seeing a way through things by learning to let go of how I judge something in order to see a way through it. Everything is a learning opportunity, so I'm working to enable/configure myself to learn more frequently. I do experience deep optimism. As for positivity, I prefer to acknowledge both sides of the coin.

Does that answer your questions?

[lndigeniousWind]

Partially, yes. Can you give some more examples of changes you've made to your use of language? Also, is this for speaking only or writing too?

>I dropped most words with opposites as a practice in nonjudgment.

Don't pretty much all words have opposites? Looking at verbs, it's hard to think of ones that lack an opposite.

I really like this general idea, and thinking about it, I want to alter my language accordingly. I would appreciate any resources.

[crawfordcomeaux]

This is for speaking/writing/doing, which is to say it's for thinking/being.

A core set of principles and language hacks came from nonviolent communication. I practically started with it and added a practice of acknowledging both words and their opposites (Maybe I mean adjectives with opposites, but maybe try it with whatever opposite-having words you catch?).

Here's a great free resource for NVC: https://youtu.be/O4tUVqsjQ2I

The nonjudgment practice went something like this:

1. Hear/read a word I detected as having an opposite.

2. Say "eh...<first word>...<its opposite>...eh" while shrugging and mentally considering the opposite within the same context.

3 weeks after having adopted the practice every day, I started enjoying foods I'd historically hated. Then I began enjoying everything in the world more, including people, country music, and watching sports.

Let's connect off-site and keep this convo going.