[myt6fore]

This thing you describe comes from internal resistance (may also be called self-reactive filtering) where environment -say, groups of people that you may have some rigid bindings with,(like workplace)- display just the slightest (very toned-down) air of viscious but very real and directed hostility. It's the artifice that bothers you, but this stuff goes deeper. You can fix that by building friendships with open (foolish) people, you just need to find some good ones. Friendships do take some effort, though.