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by brosirmandude
3009 days ago
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>Otherwise, people won’t get the help they need, and dumbasses will continue to revert to their tropes of “laziness”, “lack of willpower”, “bad parenting”, and “just need to put in more effort”. This hit me pretty hard. This has been me for the past 4 years. Diagnosed in college and convinced myself ADHD wasn't real, or if it was, I didn't have it. I was just inherently lazy and unfocused and needed to just "man up" and figure it out. Still haven't gone back to attempt to get diagnosed again. I guess I'm a little scared. Even though I've struggled with inattention (not hyperactivity, though) my whole life there's an entire half of my being that is just screaming saying "it's not a real problem, other people have real problems, this is just something you need to get past already." |
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> there's an entire half of my being that is just screaming saying "it's not a real problem, other people have real problems, this is just something you need to get past already."
You're gonna laugh if you read one of the early case studies (about someone who thought similarly) in the book "Driven to Distraction" and come to the realization how typical that feeling & response is for people with ADHD (particularly the "Primarily Inattentive" variant). When I read the case study, my thought was: "Dammit, even my (stereotypical) objections suggest it's an accurate diagnosis!".
I'd really recommend the book--it's not perfect but it covers a lot of helpful ground.
My current explanation-by-way-of-analogy:
Having ADHD-PI is like running a marathon while wearing a pantomime horse suit, yes, running a marathon like that is hard for everyone but what you don't realize is that other people aren't running it while also having a broken leg. (And neither you nor they can tell there's a difference between the two of you because of the pantomime suit--hey, I didn't say this was a good analogy. :D )