[doyoulikeworms]

My current job makes me feel very lonely. I’m not close in age to many of my coworkers and the place is very cliquey. It feels awful. I was on the verge of leaving, but actually ended up staying when I made a close friend. When that relationship dissipated, I interviewed elsewhere and put in my notice.

The social climate really makes a difference in a way I didn’t appreciate until I started this job!

[hnarn]

I'm in the same boat. I recommend anyone reading this that feel the same way to start looking for other jobs immediately. If not for your career, at least do it for your own mental health. (I'm also leaving soon)

[scarface74]

I haven't made friends at my job. I don't have the same interests as any of the other developers.

On the other hand, I have a group of five friends that I made at my previous job that I keep in touch with in a private Slack group and we meet for lunch once or twice a month.

I knew I was going to be a short timer at this job for various reasons and never bothered.

I do keep in touch with one former coworker at a job I had in 2011. I married her....

[doyoulikeworms]

I personally require more, like, personal engagement with my colleagues, I guess. I want to feel like I’m working with friends, but some cultures can make it feel like I’m often working with adversaries.

Some workplaces require you to “break into” the cliques in order to progress or work on high-visibility projects. This can make career progression feel like a political issue more than a technical issue.

That said, I also coincidentally married a woman I met at work :) And also keep up with friends from old jobs. This will likely be the first job that I’ll end up leaving without keeping in touch with anyone. That’s how isolating some places can be!