[AFNobody]

> 1. Does providing job security at the expense of pay increase or decrease loneliness? Obviously if the pay is too low there will be turnover, but is there an amount X, where X is not market rate, but still high enough so that if there were security people would just stay? Surely low turn over will result in more relationship formation which can be positively correlated with not feeling lonely.

To be honest, if you offered me a 40 hour a week max, $60k (increasing with inflation), and something similar to tenure after working there 1 year...yeah I'd take it. The core problem every adult runs in at some point is their outside-work responsibilities and long term stability is the most valuable commodity you can offer them.

That offer doesn't really exist right now, even where employees are "highly valued" like software development.

My only real stress in life is the possibility of unemployment that might require me to relocate to some place I don't want to be (like SF) with a high cost of living and high levels of urbanization.

[kaybe]

Maybe you could look into moving to Europe. You can even live in a village if you want in Germany, since many of the world market leaders in very specific things have headquarters there.

[AFNobody]

I will keep that in mind but moving to a new country as a solution is something I'm hoping to avoid. :)

[scarface74]

There are plenty of cities for software developers where the salary/cost of living equation makes more sense than the west coast.

[AFNobody]

There are but every time I change jobs I relocate. Hence valuing security.