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>how many of them haven't "fallen" into vocational/traditional roles, being bankrolled by their husband?

One. Also my only religious friend and I think her religion is the factor here.

(You're also assuming all my friends are into the "husband" thing, I have proudly single by choice friends and queer friends too)

>how many of them 'failed' to plan a lucrative career, who conveniently married a husband who didn't fail to plan?

None had zero career planning. Some of them their plans haven't quite worked out for them as they would have hoped though. Same with some of my male friends too though. It's pretty 50/50 among couples that I am friends which person has more of a "career" vs "job." I even had a female friend nearing 40 who just started college. One of my friends who works low paying jobs but is married to a doctor paid the bills for 8 years so he could go to college then medical school.

In my own marriage I (female) am the "simple extremely frugal lifestyle with early retirement" one and my husband much more of a spender. He also earns less money than me.

So, yes, it does "work that way," but first you must realize that women are humans too and not just fuckholes you pay for.