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>...and men with similar stories of being on the receiving end are ignored or told to shut up and sit down.

That is not true at all. It's just that these events are much rarer (women rarely occupy positions of power and abuse that power sexually).

>...and people trying to bring up actual statistics, or examples of non-black men getting murdered by police, get shouted down.

Again, you're fighting strawmen. Most leftists are anti-police in general and certainly care about violence against white people committed by the police, especially white people who are marginalized in other ways.

>it has to be solely and directly about racism.

It isn't solely about racism, but racism is a huge, primary component.