[gowld]

Why are you arguing against a point no one made?

That section begins "But it’s important to portray the drip-drip-drip of smaller stories as well, so here goes."

> I would avoid approaching a group of women talking by themselves since I'd be the odd one out.

In what world is that not sexism? It's at least "sex-separatist", which isn't a good thing either. The fact that it is theoretically symmetrical doesn't make it OK. (And in practice it's not symmetrical, since women are an extreme minority at these events.) That is treating people differently because of gender, in a situation where gender is irrelevant.

[Noos]

The thing though is men are seen as potential harassers, which women virtually never have to deal with. Even though we aren't, enough men are to color relations with women and add wariness to interactions; women would see us approaching, and not see us as professionals alone. And guys know they see us that way, and its not unwarranted; they don't know we won't be creepy tech guy, and there's a lot of proving on our end to assure them we wont be.

That extra subtext isn't there as much with men.