[jochung]

Asking for proof or data: denying someone's lived experience. Having a debate: sealioning. Providing evidence: mansplaining.

Yes I know, each of these terms has a well defined meaning. But that's not how they're used in practice. They are used in games of strategic equivocation.

A better read is this post, which frames it as a conflict between people who communicate to share information versus people who are seeking emotional harmony and who interpret disagreement as one-upmanship. One person offers the gift of information, the other interprets it as a slight.

https://status451.com/2016/01/06/splain-it-to-me/

[zawerf]

You should submit that link as a separate submission. It was a pretty good read.

[jochung]

It was already submitted 5 times and never went anywhere. Nothing from S451 has gotten any traction, except for one post about Hintjens' passing, which was then visiby flagged. Because of S451's role in rescuing LambdaConf from the twitter mob with a fundraiser, they are now on the socjus shitlist, and those links and posts have a habit of disappearing off HN with plausible deniability.