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If you're interested in changing how you process failure, consider "The Practicing Mind" by Thomas Sterner.

A significant personal struggle of mine which I had from a very young age, was a difficulty accepting my own failures and shortcomings. My parents always taught my to shoot for the moon, but never built a mental framework for me of how to process and understand crash landings.

This book along with some light additional study of the concept of "The Beginners Mind" has given me such a framework. I no longer struggle with failure. Even past failures which I would carry around with regret and anger, I've been able to re-cast into a different light and move on.

Anyways, it's a mental model that worked for me. YMMV.