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You asked not to be criticised in one of your replies. You want to know how to be less rude, not just take flak, right? The trouble is that rudeness/arrogance is a problem that requires humility to overcome, and gaining humility involves accepting criticism either from other people, or yourself.

If it was coming from yourself, you wouldn't be here asking. You have the choice of accepting criticism, or not being helped - there are no shortcuts.

Long story short - you're a bit of a prick, and you need to get over it if your request here is genuine, ie, not just a pantomime designed to fool yourself into thinking that "at least you're trying", as I suspect it might be. Ask yourself that first.

(As you may have noticed, I'm a prick too... I just don't care. I see myself as I see all people - monkeys in shoes, who somehow think that they're so much more. That I'm a prick is a trivial detail in the wider scope of the fact that all of humanity is, collectively, a prick too.)