[gregknicholson]

> I'd expect the response to be tailored based on some specific traits of both husband and wife and based on experience in similar types of marriages/relationships.

I'm wary of trying to reverse-engineer human behaviour, especially as it applies to personal relationships.

Besides, who decides what's the “best” course of action here? Who decides what the goal is — length of relationship? Happiness? (How do you measure that? Pleasure endorphins? Well then the correct response is you should stop talking to your partner, and do some exercise and drugs!)

In practice, the person who decides is the person in Google's office at 17:00 on a Friday.

(This is why driverless cars are hellishly scary, by the way. Any car that can be controlled by computer should have to use only publicly-auditable software — i.e. everything must be open-source and all builds must be fully reproducible. At least then you can theoretically be certain you know who your car will decide to save in an emergency, and why. How long before `git blame` is invoked in court in a murder case?)

[lifeisstillgood]

I completely agree on the "open" issue - its what took hundreds of years to get to "you can read the law as it is written down"