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> There are degrees of selfishness

I don't think anyone's disputing that. I just find it weird that someone would call out another person's lifestyle as "vacuous consumerism" or whatever when they have their own nowhere-near-ideal-but-somehow-arbitrarily-kosher footprint. You might, for example, recycle but I'm not going to be giving anyone crap if they aren't as meticulous about it as the japanese are.

I keep hearing "well here in europe you don't need a car as much" as if that's some sort of sound argument. I mean, that's great for them, but I don't speak french, dutch and certainly not norwegian, so what, I'm supposed to spend $10k+ to move my whole family there so I can lug around a stroller or a bag full of books on the train for the sake of the planet? Sorry, not gonna happen.

It's easy to be single and tell other people "look, I spend so little, I'm such a model earth dweller". I've been there. Now try doing that while enriching your kids lives, while having a public transit system that doesn't span much further than downtown core, and while having considerations about proximity to family, etc. It's a totally different ball game. And that's my whole point: different people have different lifestyles for various reasons. One's single european lifestyle is not necessarily going to work for someone else living somewhere else with a family. If anything, the "you have car, you bad" attitude is self-absorbed and short-sighted.

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> I keep hearing "well here in europe you don't need a car as much" as if that's some sort of sound argument. I mean, that's great for them, but I don't speak french, dutch and certainly not norwegian, so what, I'm supposed to spend $10k+ to move my whole family there so I can lug around a stroller or a bag full of books on the train for the sake of the planet? Sorry, not gonna happen.

A lot of Americans talk as though needing a car is a law of nature, which just isn't the case. From a European perspective a lot of this is Americans shooting themselves in the foot and then saying they can't help bleeding everywhere. The American situation is one that's been created by American political decisions - zoning, parking minimums, minimum lot sizes, car-first city designs - and can be reversed by politics as well, but for Americans to make those changes they have to believe that the results are possible. Of course you can choose to keep operating on everyone-owns-a-car politics, but recognise that you do have a choice in the matter; recognise that approaches like the currently-under-discussion California SB 827 could create an America that's less car-dependent.

> And that's my whole point: different people have different lifestyles for various reasons. One's single european lifestyle is not necessarily going to work for someone else living somewhere else with a family.

But non-car does work for a lot of people across many different lifestyles, including Americans, including people with families. You're painting it as if the only people who could possibly disagree with you are this tiny box of single European instagramming metrosexuals, and actually it's you that's the small box. Most of the world's households do not own a car.

> If anything, the "you have car, you bad" attitude is self-absorbed and short-sighted.

Global warming is already going to kill millions of people in the best case, if we do everything we can - but what we do can make the difference between how many millions die. The current American level of car use is simply not sustainable; maybe avoiding it is going to mean worse lives for your kids or less chance to see your family, but ultimately if it comes down to a choice between those things and killing 80% of humanity there can only be one answer.

But really I don't believe it's that hard. For decades incandescent light bulb manufacturers claimed they couldn't possibly make a light bulb that was more efficient - but then when we actually legally mandated certain levels of efficiency, somehow they found a way. A good life without a car is possible, and when cars become a non-option people will surprise themselves with how easy it is to adapt to their absence, and wonder what it was they ever thought they needed them for.

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> A lot of Americans talk as though needing a car is a law of nature

I can't speak for other people (especially those who do live in really-car-first parts of the US), but for me it's definitely not a law of nature. I've been single with no car, married with no car, had a kid with no car, had a kid uptown with no car. Can it work? Sure, with some concessions it can totally work. But things like taking the newborn to the doctor using public transportation _suck_, even though I consider the public transit system _good_.

> Most of the world's households do not own a car.

Right, and the sort of logistics that sucked for me with just strolling one kid in downtown Toronto suck for them too, often tenfold. Where I grew up (Brazil), it's common for single moms of 4 to need to take 3-4 buses to get to their first job of the day. There's plate rotation, vehicle ownership tax, tolls, alternative forms of public transit, uber, but also high crime, floods, corruption, inequality, you name it. The cars-vs-public-transit discussion doesn't even begin to scratch the transportation problems in Sao Paulo, let alone the environmental impact. For my specific situation and my level of disposable income, a car happens to make life much easier, but I'm fully aware that cars aren't a one-glove-fit-all solution, just as I'm aware that making sweeping political commentary wrt city design isn't going to cut it as a solution to the many different types of challenges involved in optimizing transportation in a non-idealized world.

> You're painting it as if the only people who could possibly disagree with you are this tiny box of single European instagramming metrosexuals

Not at all! Not having a car does work for a lot of people, and in places like the Netherlands, one can even happily bike everywhere with their kids without getting almost killed by taxis. But cars can be undeniably useful for saving time and for carrying things around. People giving labor use cars to go to the hospital for a reason. People uber for a reason. People drive in much of the rural world for a reason. I'm not sure what's there to disagree with.

> recognise that you do have a choice in the matter; recognise that approaches like the currently-under-discussion California SB 827

Generally speaking, the problem with social activism is that most people don't have the time, energy or interest to pour into the political game, and it's not even clear that a half decent solution would emerge even if they did (see, e.g., housing in SF). For my particular case, as I mentioned before, I'm not american and I'm about as unmotivated to be politically invested in San Francisco as I am in Sao Paulo.

> A good life without a car is possible

Yes, it is, but currently, as I mentioned, it unfortunately involves making a lot of concessions. If a better option came along, I'd totally be open to it. As I said, I've held the anti-car position for a long time, and I'm certainly not shy to change camps again.