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by nkoren 3083 days ago
> India until 2 generations ago - arranged marriage is good. Today that's evil.

Suggest you do some homework. Something like 80%-90% of marriages in India are still arranged. And most people are pretty happy with this situation, or at least no more miserable than "Love marriages" -- which remain highly controversial -- would make them.

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The definition of 'arranged marriage' today has been neutered. Until 2 generations ago, arranged marriage meant that women had absolutely no say in their marriage - it was at the decision of the parents and to further the desires of the parents.

Today, arranged marriage means that the woman's parents will present her with prospective marriage partners but leave the decision making to her, including veto or asking the parents to 'arrange' for a man that the woman fancies - kind of like Tinder but the matching algorithm is parents. That version of arranged marriage is straight up better than the (serious) dating scene in westernized countries.

The original version is definitely considered evil by today's morals.

Okay, you have an alright understanding of the contemporary meaning of the term "arranged marriage" in that case. I find that sticking with contemporary parlance really helps avoid misunderstanding. The term you presumably meant to use -- in today's language -- would be "forced marriage". In which case: agreed!