[trowawee]

I don't think that's a particularly controversial view. Your last few sentences touch more on the issue - when you're faced with losing someone, it's very easy to say "Pull out all the stops, having [ mom | dad | grandma | grandpa ] here for one more year is worth it." Honestly, the only group of people I've ever been around who have less trouble with that mindset are medical professionals. Most doctors, especially if they're 65+, are DNR/DNI because they've seen what spending significant time in the healthcare system is really like. But I've seen some of those same people fall into the trap of demanding care for their aging parents that they've explicitly rejected for themselves.