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by watwut
3101 days ago
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I read quite a few war time memoirs (not soldiers bit people living there) and people indeed died because they could not adjust. Some aspects of you are changeable, others not so much. And checking yourself into mental institution won't change any of what is talked about here. Neither psychiatry nor psychology works so reliably, never mind them having to deal with real huge mental disorders primary. They will kick you off, because they deal with really heavy stuff and they can't help you with run of the mill spiritual path. That argument is literally just you trying to insult/offend people. Maybe you stopped yelling at your familly, but you are still solving disagreement with insults - that pretend to be fact based but are based on lack of knowledge about mental institutions. I find yelling better, as long as I can yell back. It is less under the belt. Society does not side with people who have problems, except in very few circumstances anyway. |
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I agree, most of the shrinks I dealt with were a mess, and could hardly help me.
>That argument is literally just you trying to insult/offend people.
I didn't mean to, and I regret posting that, as I really don't believe that it would help. And yes, I meant it as an argumentative point, that if you can't control your own actions, your likely a danger to society. Which really isn't a good argument to make in this context, and was a low blow.
>...you are still solving disagreement with insults...
The thing I taught my family, that didn't get mentioned here yet, is that I taught them how to be wrong and sorry. This solves almost every problem in a relationship.
I did it openly in front of everyone in the family. And when I screw up, I gather my family together in one room, and I openly apologize in front of all of them. I state clearly what I did wrong, and that I was sorry for it. I don't make an excuse for it, I just say sorry.
It doesn't mean there aren't fights, that will never change or end as long as life has difficulties and stresses. It means that our fights are more about what is actually wrong, not about being personally hurting towards the other person.
And when I go over the line, I apologize, and now everyone else in my family does this too.
>Society does not side with people who have problems, except in very few circumstances anyway.
Not in a good way, but society certainly likes to give excuses for keeping our problems as they are, or blaming someone else for them. Or at the very least, making us feel like we can't solve them ourselves or with just our friends and family.