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by Sytten 3105 days ago
Not sure if this is terribly awesome or immensely sad
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Thanks for the feedback.

I created this project because ​​I know many people who struggled with loneliness at times in their lives.

My hope is that by sharing this experience we’ll feel a sense of connection when we’re alone, and find more acceptance of ourselves and our aloneness, however happy, peaceful, or sad.

I think this is pretty cool and thanks for making it. I bus commute 2.5 hours per work day and my job is 98% alone time, so it will be cool to see what other people in this boat do with that time.

Maybe it's all the HN posts about loneliness like another person noted, but does anyone else have a job like this? I'm really curious to hear about any long-term experiences with significant alone time. Seems like 100% remote folks might deal with this level of aloneness too. I'm realizing after a year that all the alone time really weighs on my psyche if I don't organize it somehow, so I've got five journals that I carry every day just to organize my thoughts. Curious what systems and strategies others have for structuring alone time.

This makes me think of grouphug.us (now gone) which was a pretty neat concept and was reborn/reinvented a couple of different times before the author finally took it down.

Overall, grouphug was a really cool site with a lot of neat statements.

I feel like the way sharesolo is designed helps in promoting a variety of different posts, with the photos/instagram feel behind it. Promoting it during the holidays will also have an interesting dynamic. I think it will be interesting to watch and see what people post.

Although there are some implementation aspects I don't like, I really do like the concept and the layout.

sidenote: For some reason it asks Firefox mobile for microphone access, but I was able to post something by using the web panels in Vivaldi desktop.

Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole.
> Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole.

Being alone is not a sickness. The site, when viewed on mobile even without an app, shows the first entry as someone who climbed a mountain when alone. Another learned about the three poisons, and yet a third chose to read a series of books.

Agree with this. It'll be important for Solo to highlight and even celebrate the positive aspects of being alone to avoid this.
There have been times when I've felt extremly lonely. I think an app like this which connects lonely people together would be awesome!

I generally just visit some random subreddits or random rooms on Discord when I feel lonely.

Or, connect lonely people to those that might lend an ear, offer advice, or just offer support in some other way.
Normally, I'd say go see your doctor. I'm not sure if he has solid advice for einsamkeit but at least he can reference to a psychologist so you can get treated for depression. Many elder people are lonely, but the underlying problem is actually depression.

There's an alternative to creating an Instagram or Facebook for lonely people: learn to deal with it, and take the positive out of loneliness.

1) You don't have to take other's viewpoints, desires, preferences, opinions into account.

2) You can live in silence, and can therefore decide if/when you play audio or video, read a book, play the piano. Heck, do a solo sport, or meditate.

Once you have solace with being lonely, you can be productive. You'll be able to for example study, you'll be able to write a book.

Then, when you do meet other people, you'll have something meaningful to sure.

And then an application like this can hook these people up. But I wonder if platforms like Instagram and Facebook don't already also serve that purpose. Or, heck, something like deviantArt.

If you can't entertain yourself while you're alone or if you can't be productive while you're alone that's not loneliness. That's depression. I adore being alone, its when I'm most productive. Then again, I'm a loner, and I embraced that, and because I was only child I learned to entertain myself whilst being alone.

Suicide hotlines are generally under handed, I don't think we have enough people to help lonely people just yet.
That's 7cups of tea.