[edmccard]

>basically, it re-enforces the idea that men and women are actually so different that you have to be a certain gender just to do something you want to do (gender essentialism)

Do you think there's a difference between thinking you have to be a woman because you want (for example) to be a nurse, and thinking you have to be a woman because you want to be a woman?

[spiznnx]

Yes, there is a difference. But you really have to think about what being a woman means, if those aspects should really be attributed as those of women, and why you want those aspects (do you really have a fundamental desire to have breasts, or do you really want to be a nurse, and feel alienated by not having them when other nurses do).