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by baldfat 3112 days ago
LOL Techmeme River :

http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2017/12/...

> > Children given unsupervised access to the internet is ridiculous.

> Why?

Your reasoning with kids. Sure when they are teenagers that's great but children need more than a reasoning parent. Children need to be protected and above everything feel safe. The internet is not a safe place for children nor just YouTube for kids without someone keeping an eye out. Research absolutely proves that children need to feel safe. https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/persistent-fea...

Now I am not talking about helicopter and babying children. I am saying all children need strong parents that will protect them and help them to make good meaningful decisions and have awesome experiences. They don't need parents saying hey 10 year old Susie there are guys that want to hurt you sexually for their own perverse desires so you need to .... No you tell them they are safe and you are their to help keep them safe. If they ever feel uncomfortable or someone is touching what a bathing suit covers to tell you. You also need to know that the vast majority of predators are family and friends.

If you aren't your children's protector your just throwing you responsibility and weight of parenting on to a child. Again I am not for helicopter and over protective, but all kids need to know that Mom and Dad will protect them (Even if we fail sometimes).

> Every kid is getting "addicted"?

Did I say every? https://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/21/technology/personaltech/w...

Yes when the 4th grade boy wrote down the url to where he saw a man having sex with a dog and gave it to my daughter, yeah that kid had some issues. He also had a tablet with Netflix when he was in Kindergarten and still has unlimited access to the internet. Sadly that kid ins't in school anymore due to his mother not protecting him physically or mentally.

> And guess what? 99.99% of 90s kids didn't use webcams.

And guess what kids are being exploited unbelievably now. The Children's Mental Hospital has many homes with just sexually exploited girls ages 11 to 15. There are dozens of them messed up. Most of them were exploited by people they met online.

> No offense, but your kids aren't prepared for the real world.

Hey buddy if I could swear at you I would. My two oldest that were abused for years. They both graduated from college (10% of former foster kids attempt college 50% don't make it past 1st semester) My son is being shipped out to Kuwait with the National Guard and he just got married last month. My daughter she now works full time with the girls who were sexually exploited. You are all focused on over babying children that you think negating a basic parental role of protector messes up kids. Please. They both lived on their own since 19 and when i can help them out I would, but my kids are the most tenacious hard working adults I know, because they knew the neglect they grew up with before my home was crap and that the love and protection they had when they moved in. It was hell for them and us both for the first year or two. In the end they are rocking. Also Mr No Offense I even got an award from the state of Pennsylvania and a bunch of congressional and state plaques for parenting these abused kids to where they aren't in the system anymore and are successful productive members of society.

The first step of parenting children is that you make them feel safe from day one till they are mostly adults. That's essential and you give kids internet with no filters? That's how we have Alex Jone's audience members.

2 comments

> Hey buddy if I could swear at you I would

It's against the rules here to get involved in flamewars and especially to get personal like this. I realize some topics are personally intense and one isn't always able to contain the intensity, but in such cases we need to take a step back and not contribute to the downward spiral.

The rules at https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html are simple and not easy, and we need everyone to stick to them.

> LOL Techmeme River :

Oh god.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11637697/Catcal...

Yes. There are bad people everywhere. Did you lock your children in the basement? I'm not denying there are dangers in the world and on the internet. My point is that those threats are overblown.

And there have been clickbait fearmongering articles every decade.

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/28/technology/personaltech/28...

> Research absolutely proves that children need to feel safe.

And you telling your kids that there are dangers everywhere must make them feel real safe.

> Again I am not for helicopter and over protective

Okay. But everything you've written and the "research" you've done says otherwise.

> Did I say every?

You kinda implied it.

> Yes when the 4th grade boy wrote down the url to where he saw a man having sex with a dog and gave it to my daughter, yeah that kid had some issues. He also had a tablet with Netflix when he was in Kindergarten and still has unlimited access to the internet. Sadly that kid ins't in school anymore due to his mother not protecting him physically or mentally.

Anecdotes?

> Hey buddy if I could swear at you I would.

No need for that.

> The first step of parenting children is that you make them feel safe from day one till they are mostly adults.

And I posit that you did just the opposite. I doubt there was a day in your kids life that they felt safe.

> That's how we have Alex Jone's audience members.

What? Oh my god. I now am very concerned for what you did to your kids, if you had any.