[erasemus]

>Debate and negotiation are not games that I anticipate enjoying

Yes and I think that's because they entail criticism, which is used to attack ideas and people we don't like. Whereas creating something worthwhile is about discovering or perceiving something already inside the mind that we do like (and therefore cannot seriously attempt to criticize). Building a family is an attempt to create something worthwhile.

[analog31]

I'm reminded of a saying: "It takes a carpenter to build a shed, but a jackass can knock it down."