[makemoniesonlin]

The guidelines are arbitrary and not based on anything scientific. Stop mentioning them like if he cuts down to 14 units, he's not harming himself, but if he only cuts down to, say, 17 units, he still harming himself.

[DanBC]

You keep saying they're arbitrary. Please provide a link to the research used to set the limit. This would show that you've at least read it before dismissing it.

And if he cut down to 17 I wouldn't be mentioning the recommended limits. I keep mentioning them because other people keep saying OP's not drinking that much. OP's drinking more than double the recommended limits but more importantly OP has noticed harm is being caused.