[lmcnish14]

Why is the onus of lowering their standards being pushed on educated women? One of the issues the author states is that men increasingly go for younger women instead of ones their own age. Why do we value youth and beauty instead of education and accomplishments?

[iaw]

> Why is the onerous of lowering their standards being pushed on educated women?

A single person looking to find a partner is in essence selling something: themselves. When selling anything it's important to consider the target market.

If the market isn't interested in what someone is selling there's a few options: 1) Change the product 2) Find a different market

Changing the behavior of the market is not an option because, unless it's a really really desirable product, the market isn't likely to budge.

So educated women that the article is referring could decide to not lower their standards but the risk they face is being alone.

[empath75]

Both sides are lowering standards along different dimensions. Assuming the perfect mate is someone who is young, attractive, educated and accomplished -- men choose the young and attractive and women choose 'educated and accomplished'.

[niuzeta]

The article itself is saying that women's proclivity to want higher status male is due to biology. If we're okay with it, then shouldn't men's proclivity to want younger, healthier female be okay?

[lackbeard]

The article isn't pushing for women to lower their standards. It's just describing the present situation and offering an explanation for how it came to be.

[mythrwy]

Because biology. When it comes to mating what someone is is more important than what they know. Which biologically makes sense.

[xor1]

I am a firm believer in humanity's ability to overcome our biology.

[mythrwy]

So are religious leaders and mothers and Soviet social planners. But they are perpetually disappointed.

Because what is humanity without it's biology?

Instinct doesn't belong to the individual, it belongs to the species. And life doesn't care atoll about abstract moral principal. That's just syntactic sugar to help us manage and grow the hive given biological impulse. When we overcome a natural impulse guess what? It's a natural impulse doing that too. If we overcome all natural impulse (how?) this species is finished and are something else, certainly not "humanity" at that point.

Right now what really drives us around is 10's of thousands of years older than the beginning of writing and cities. At least.

[xor1]

>If we overcome all natural impulse (how?) this species is finished and are something else, certainly not "humanity" at that point.

What's wrong with that?

[mythrwy]

It might be inevitable that we give rise to intelligent machines, become machines and that's it. Nothing wrong with it.

But at present we are behaviorally closer to monkeys even if we dress up in suits and have rules and values. Which don't (unlike what we generally conceive) have any eternal significance beyond being various versions of conventions such as "who gets to pick the lice off the alpha male first".

Point being, what we are is the reality of what we have to work with. Mating included. Puritan scolders will forever fail and life will keep right on going until the machine (if that ever happens).

[psergeant]

The onerous onus to find the educated.

[tzahola]

>Why do we value youth and beauty instead of education and accomplishments?

I for one, do value these traits. If I were to choose between two equally looking girls, I would choose the smarter. On the other hand, I have a strict lower bound for appearance, and no amount of education or accomplishment can compensate for being under that threshold. We can still talk about programming though!

[ionised]

> why do we value youth and beauty instead of education and accomplishments?

Simple answer is, it's instinctual.

[hasenj]

eh, this is like an obese man complaining that thin women don't want to date him, then when people point out the obvious, he complains why is the onus being pushed on him instead of on the thin women who don't find him attractive.