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by cabaalis 3137 days ago
This is so awful that I'm sad to see the word "advice" being used. I lost my wife due to my commitment to my startup. I'm still at a startup, but the one that I loved and dreamed about so much which cost me so dearly ultimately failed.

Before you take this kind of advice, take a good long look at what you want from life. Before you take a vow to support your business you should remember the vows you've already made.

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18 months ago, I almost lost my wife because of a project I joined at the beginning of 2015 to which I dedicated all my time, hoping it starts rising quick (when I joined they were working on it for already 2 years, and it was "a matter of months, one year top, to finish").

Turns out it didn't, and when my wife pronounced the word "divorce", I dropped it all (the tension was anyway rising between me and the team for some months) to save my marriage.

I was lucky enough that it ended well on my personal life. And that's the last time I make this mistake. Wealth is cool, loved ones are what matters (at least for me).

On a side note, they're still struggling to finish their app.

I can second this. I was in a relationship with a highly paying job, and my girlfriend and I mutually agreed to break up because of the volatility that starting a startup entails. Pressuring your significant other to stay with you when the vast majority of startups fail is just selfish and irrational.