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I think the word "goal" is too strong, here, but it is a valid point.

People change, and in a good marriage, the spouses should absolutely push each other to change in ways that are healthy and positive.

It's simply ridiculous to assume that whomever you're marrying, right now, is the person they will be for the rest of their lives, or that you shouldn't try to influence those changes.

In fact, that goes beyond just marriages... I would hope that, in all of my relationships, be it as friend, brother, husband, or son, I am a positive influence on my loved ones, and that those people are a positive influence on me.