[jankins]

To clarify further:

Uncertainty is the cost of gaining more ownership, and I don't want to downplay that. If I'm sending messages where I want to maintain as much personal ownership as possible, I use my personal mailserver and accept the risks. If I'm sending mail where I need higher certainty and don't care about ownership, I use other providers.

Another commenter said: "if you absolutely depend on the ability to send emails such that your recipients reliably get them, hosting your own email server is extremely tricky." I agree with that -- different communication has different needs/requirements, and a self-hosted mailserver gives some benefits that I really like and that you can't get any other way. I'm just saying for me and for my common uses, it doesn't feel like a constant headache + battle.