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From your description it does look like some sort of hazing ritual - you aren’t junior in technical competence but your are junior in political and social experience in this company and they are “teaching” you what is socially acceptable in this company. Either you are or want to be a similar kind of person and appreciate their efforts or you aren’t or don’t want to be and plan your exit. Before you think about whether you are technically appropriate for the job you must think whether you are socially appropriate for the company. Your life is way too short to spend a third of it pretending to be someone else, so be at a company where you feel like you’re chilling when you’re talking with colleagues.