| Zen and buddhism. (Zen is not really buddhism). Among many others things (therapy, running, playing high level piano, amazing remote job), Zen rewired and helps me to deal with this every day. I'd recommend this authors with all my heart to anyone: - Thich Nhat Hanh ("You are here") - Alan Watts - Eckhart Tolle ("Stillness Speaks") - Shunryū Suzuki ("Zen mind beginner's mind") - Ryan Holiday ("Ego is the enemy") Piano helped me quite a lot. First my teacher, I could even say my piano teacher played a more important role in helping me, more than my family ever could. Musically I felt in love with Chopin and I really hope someday to be able to play Ballade 4 op. 52. It puts me at least decade long goal (yup, it is really really hard to play that). Running, eating healthy, etc sure. But I think it works better to have the brain thinking better first. Otherwise we'll stick in the same trap over and over, with the same bad thoughts and habits we want to break. We need to get beyond thinking and feeling. Training ourselves to see them, observer them and letting them go. It takes a lot of time. But you can do it. Hope something of this help someone. |