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If the girl is gonna leave you for that reason or is this simple things gonna hurt your relationship, I'm sorry to say you this, but perhaps it's not the right kind of girl for you. From what I see, it's something that you want, and in the end, it's a job, something which enables you to pay your bills and be an adult, something you depend on. So, I would just do it. When I've got an offer to move to Germany and wanted to go there, my partner just did with me, even though she had to struggle a bit with the language to then find a job, she did it, now she's happy about it, just as she was we came here. And in the end, this can also go away, and you'll be stuck with your old town, no girlfriend and your poor choice. If you don't do it and stay with her there and do what was your plans before, it's very likely that this will become a subject when you fight and this could be even worse, you would feel that this specific decision as dragged you down future-wise in life, getting you to blame her perhaps forever. I know this can look individualistic. But seriously, there's special people everywhere, you could move in and find a new love, I don't know. I feel that if you are made for each other, you would like to be part of the plan of one another, or to respect and do the best to support the interest of your partner, as for instance, when you are married, you indeed got a contract which in case you get divorced, you get 50%, so even in economical terms it would be great to take decision to go wherever pays best for the couple. If my wife would get a good job and I could just stay at home and keep things tidy until I would also find one, I would definitely do it, why not? :-) my 2 cents. |
Thanks for your input though. Helpful to know others out there have been in similar situations.