[werbergerber]

I was faced with this same decision. SO didn’t come with me and I was broken up about it until we reconciled and she eventually joined me (at significant financial cost to me). It was a worthwhile life experience but we ultimately moved back to our original home and are both much happier. In retrospect I can’t say I made the wrong choice but it was rough for a bit there for me personally

ETA the housing situation is bad enough in SV that I definitely wouldn’t do it again