[bdowling]

Who do you want to be: (a) the guy who moves across the country to advance his career (to take his "dream job"), or (b) the guy who lets the opportunity pass by to stay near a girl who isn't substantially committed (i.e., not married or engaged) to him?

I do think there's room for a third option where you take the job and get the girl, but you will need to figure out if you are actually going to propose to her or if you are just "likely going to propose".