[psyc]

I can't really explain how I arrived at this, without telling too much life story. I can only say that several painful mistakes eventually taught me not to prioritize anything over a genuine relationship. Jobs are cheap. Love is dear.

[brad0]

That's interesting. I've come to the opposite conclusion.

I'm curious about your story, care to share it?

[gamechangr]

I'm not the OP or the person who made this comment, but I totally agree with his sentiment.

There is more that goes into it than this, but I want to focus on two main factors that really define your choices.

1) Your previous relational success/failure. If you struggle, we tend lean back into things we are good at = job. Just because it's natural, doesn't mean its right.

2) your current age (you become more self aware over time). I can speak personally that 23 year old me would take the job, but 33 year old me would go for the girl. There are soooo many good jobs. Finding someone you want to live with is much more rare...depending on the person ...extremely rate.

Regret over relationships sucks... most the time it's gone forever. Regret over job ...just quit.

[relo_worries]

Age is a great point. I'm 30. I think back on previous relationships and it sounds like an easy decision to take the job. This relationship, with this girl, not so much.

My dream scenario is i keep the job and the girl, so I need to find a way to make that happen