[pc86]

Uh, it's less about "leaving it for the other siblings" and more that it's the parent's money. It doesn't belong to any of the children until the parents are deceased and it's actually given to them.

The number of otherwise good people I've heard refer to "their money" when actually referring to their parents' assets is heartbreaking.

[literallycancer]

Maybe they simply think of the assets as "family assets" regardless of who actually owns them? Why assume they are malicious?

[rmrm]

because the people that actually own the assets need to agree for this to be ok.

[literallycancer]

His issue was that people talk about assets as if they were theirs, not that they using them as if they were. It's quite possible that they simply don't have a dysfunctional family and can agree on what's to be done with them, hence it doesn't matter who actually owns them, and not making the distinction in conversation isn't an issue.

[rmrm]

"agree"

Exactly my point. I understand what you are saying - but in conversation, my reaction is much more like the parent comment, it sounds like an entitled POV. Many people who say such things, in my anecdotal experience, feel they have a right to the wealth, and may not have agreement.