[koonsolo]

Here is what helped for me. I was at the receiving end of a divorce, from a (in my opinion) nice family with 3 kids. It was really hard on me, since I really loved my ex, and I loved my family.

But I came to realize that the woman I love is in my heart only, and doesn't exist in the real word. My real world ex is cold hearthed, chose to dump her own family. The woman in my heart was really nice. But realize that she doesn't exist.

So maybe if you try to see the woman in your heart as separate from the real world one (which seems to be some psychotic bitch), you can move a step further away.

I'm sure the woman in your hearth wouldn't do all the things that your ex is doing.

[alexibm]

In grand scheme of things, nothing terrible have happened to me. I didn't move to another country, we don't have kids (imagine having kids and getting being banned from entering country where they live) or house, no costly divorce. My psyche is badly damaged, that is true. You have lost a lot more than I did. Slowly but surely, I am coming to the same conclusion: she is artificially constructed person in my mind/heart and this image of her, unfortunately does not exist in the real world. Person I loved, would never tell me, that she will name a dog after the child we were planning to have.

[koonsolo]

Lots of strength to you man. The world can be a shitty place sometimes. But there are always worse things that can happen.

Try to stay away from the bottle, and build up your life with the things you do have. Everything is temporary anyway, so enjoy the nice moments you have.