[slamdance]

Edit: Personally, i find it a bit ridiculous the fact that people always find ways to blame other people for their own problems - in this case, someone is THINKING too much, and that somehow is someone else's fault?

If you want help, ASK FOR HELP. Otherwise, we're being chauvinistic if we even offer. This is what society has devolved to.

Does "Emotional Labor" exist? sure. But people need to manage their own mental stress levels. friends and family should help when they can, but they shouldn't be blamed necessarily be blamed for it.

I don't want you to clean the dishes. I want you to WANT to clean the dishes.

[dang]

Could you please not use uppercase for emphasis? That's internet yelling, and violates the HN guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.

[musha68k]

> “I don't want you to clean the dishes. I want you to WANT to clean the dishes.”

I can relate to where you are coming from here, but I ultimately arrived at:

“I want you to care about me wanting to have clean dishes in our shared home.”