[mbunch]

I feel for the guy, to be honest. I've been in a good relationship for years now, but I know that bitterness and resentment. If I'd made the mistake of broadcasting my honest thoughts during that time and somebody linked them to me, it would not be pretty.

[glibgil]

Bitterness and resentment when one out of dozens of dates leaves you on read? This guy has problems that he brought to the "game". How can a person be anything but gracious to and happy for people that they are dating?

And a reminder, the first rule of Fuck Club is you don't talk about Fuck Club. He dragged his dates and that's antisocial. It creates problems in the community

[mbunch]

So the ideal is to adopt an "abundance mentality", right? One where you're so confident and successful that you really don't care if any individual reaction doesn't go your way. It takes a loooong time to get there if you're starting from a point of having dealt with rejection (whether explicit or imagined) for years.

I don't know if everybody's experience is the same, but I was a virgin well past the normal age and every attempt to get into the romantic game crashed and burned for one reason or another. Sure, the first few times can be explained away with truisms and platitudes, but after a while, the thought that you're just broken, undesirable, unlovable starts nagging at you. Every time that some girl dances with you then disappears without giving you her number, when that OKCupid date doesn't get a followup, it's all reinforcing that thought that there's just something wrong with you. Even when you do start seeing success, that thought, that fragment of your self-image, it stays with you. Shedding that part of your identity can be rough transition, and that's if you're aware of it and trying to move past it. Otherwise it just colors all of your future interactions.

[glibgil]

You seem like you understand the internal native of your feelings. The guy in article does not.

The proper response is, "I feel terrible that she's not texting me back. But, it's not, in fact, terrible. I can handle it. I'd rather she did text me back, but there's no rule that says people have to be interested in me. I may very well meet someone soon that is interested in me as much as I am in them. I had better do something today to try and meet them instead of sulking."

The guy in the article is more like, "How dare she not text me. She's not even good enough for me. She's old and not that hot."