| I think your problem (I get super depressed about having to lie so often) is simply because you've not thought it through very well so I'll share a few things I've learned... The first job I ever had I watched my boss take credit for things I designed several times while I was standing right there listening to them. At first I was stunned, then I got pissed, then I realized they were just insecure and selfish but I still couldn't recover any respect for them and that lesson stuck with me. I didn't want anyone to think of me the way I thought of them. There have been a few times when I was sure someone was telling me a lie and I was wrong, so I try not to jump to the conclusion that someone is lying even when what they're telling me sounds a bit far fetched, but I reserve the right to not take it for the truth. There have been times I'm really glad I did that. As to telling a lie to get out of an uncomfortable situation I can't really think of many times I've done that. I just don't find telling a lie to be easier because I don't want to worry about that coming back to bite me in the ass and that worry is the minimum wage we must pay for a lie. There are times I know lying could be convenient and potentially beneficial. For example, I quit school in the 10th grade and that doesn't look good on a résumé. But I've learned not to worry about that because the truth is if the person or company doing the hiring cannot see past that one bit than the odds are I probably won't want to work with them. And if I lied and they hired me and then found out I lied I must expect they should fire me. How could everything else I've told them not be suspect? That would really suck if I found I loved working with them. No, when you think it through and consider the cost vs benefits it's far easier to not lie and there is no necessity at all to lie and in the end growing old with a clean conscious is what becomes the most valuable think you can possess. |