[corporateslave3]

Yeah, its a trap generally. In theory your dating matches are limitless, in reality they are much more constrained. This is how the dating atmosphere in NYC generally works, a ton of people with too many mediocre options.

[stepanhruda]

Saw an article recently stating

* bottom 80% of the men all compete for 20% of the women who actually respond to them

* the other 80% of the women only respond to the top 20% of the men

[0xCMP]

Two rules of online dating: 1. be attractive and 2. don't be unattractive.

[sokoloff]

That may be true, but recognize that just as in income, the quintiles are fluid. My wife (presumably) places me in the top 20% by her fitness function, while someone seeking GQ models for December's shoot wouldn't put me in the top 50%.

[monksy]

I can't find the link. But they did histogram of how men and women were ranked by who they were interested in.

Women by in large had an average at 6/10. Men had an average around 2.5/10.

[corporateslave3]

Yeah its crazy, all these average single girls thinking they are better than the average single guys, until they hit mid to late twenties. Then they "settle" for someone they deemed undesirable for the previous few years.

[shubb]

Aren't you really saying that they are narcissists?

The job market is a bit like this - a lot of job opennings and a lot of applicants.

If all of the jobs you are qualified for are beneath you, then you need to fix your head. And if you want stability, but the only jobs that pay what you deserve are short terms contracts, then you need to consider your priorities.

We tell people not to settle, because getting deeply emotionally involved with someone unsuitable ends painfully. As does trying a committed relationship and realizing that you could do better.

But 'settling' for someone as attractive, clever, funny and sane as you are is not settling.