| The more you interact with women, the more you get to know women. There is no method. Think about throwing a baseball. No professional pitcher looks the same. They each have their own peculiar windup, delivery, and follow-thru. They each have a different selection of pitches. Some are taller than others. Some are from the Dominican Republic. What do they have in common? They've all been pitching for a long ass time. Sure, they have insights on the process. They'll show you their grip on their change-up or how they flick their wrists out before they release their curveball. They'll show you little bits of technique but they'll never be able to teach you how to pitch. You've got to figure it out on your own. Confidence is absolutely key. You're up on the mound. Your entire team is behind you, waiting for you to deliver the ball. It's just you and the batter. You're on the spot. You can't undo what is about to happen. There is no proof-reading. There are no mentors to run things by. It's all up to you. The first pitch might be off target. That doesn't matter. You've still got at least one more pitch to throw. So what are you going to do, fret about what just happened or think about how having a 1-0 count can work to your advantage? What was that last pitch, a fastball, and you missed up and outside with it against a left-handed hitter? Perfect time to throw your slider in for a strike, just nabbing the upper right corner. Now it's 1-1. The hitter is left thinking if the first pitch, way outside that it was, wasn't just some sort of psychological test, a setup, a prelude for the rest of the at-bat. Congratulations, you've just gotten through a single batter. There are at least two more to go, and that's just for this inning. If you're lucky, you'll get to face 27 or more of them. If you're not up to par, you might only see a dozen or so. The point is you are hungry for the chance to show off your skills. It doesn't matter if you're a knuckleballer, a crafty south-paw, or a fire-brand young all-star. You're all experiencing the same thing. However, the method used to succeed is your own. |
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However, a little instruction about body language and psychology can go a long way if you need it. It's useful to know where you stand. Incidentally, I've started playing poker most nights for the past week, and together with some reading about tells, I feel as though my ability to read people to some degree has improved.