[pbhjpbhj]

>beyond being able to have access to their parents at any time during the day //

That sounds like anything but an advantage if you eventually seek to have children be independently capable and willing to rely on their own resources.

[rayiner]

> That sounds like anything but an advantage if you eventually seek to have children be independently capable and willing to rely on their own resources.

I mean, this is fuzzy-headed thinking. You can flip that around just as easily: allowing a kid to reach out to a parent as needed using her own agency can reduce the anxiety that makes children clingy. It's like training wheels: do they encourage or discourage biking without them?

[saint_fiasco]

On the contrary. Being able to communicate with parents at any time lets them take more calculated risks and grow more independent.

If I had a cellphone when I was a kid, taking the bus for the first time would not have been so terrifying.

[pbhjpbhj]

>If I had a cellphone when I was a kid, taking the bus for the first time would not have been so terrifying. //

Isn't it being "terrifying" and yet you having the gumption to do it what builds your character and prepares you to take on things without having your hand held? You were relying on your self - your skills, your organisation; and not on your parents?

[zimpenfish]

"And now, little Jack, it's time to learn to swim. [throws child in pool] C'mon, use your gumption! Stop drowning! And stop all that yelling. This is building character!

Oh, he's drowned. Never mind! Better luck with little Fred!"

[pbhjpbhj]

There's a lot of variables and fine balance at play, for sure.

Riding the bus alone for the first time: IIRC I was 11, but in a small village, I'd already ride a few miles from home on my push bike.

I wouldn't expect death as the most likely outcome of a public transit ride at this sort of age.

There's no one size fits all approach to raising children.

[saint_fiasco]

Having a way to talk to parents in an emergency isn't having your hand held. It's like a parachute that allows you to do more dangerous things than you would do otherwise. I didn't end up actually using that cellphone because I didn't get lost, but that doesn't mean the phone was useless.

Maybe this is not the case anymore because phones are cheap but when I was a kid I felt proud that my parents trusted me with such an expensive piece of hardware. I considered it a responsibility.

[jackvalentine]

Agreed - discomfort and fear have value. If you can't stomach the low-stakes game of using public transport without a lifeline how will you handle anything more serious?

[jdmichal]

In addition to other responses, I'd like to point out that it also reinforces shared values and expectations of connectivity and communication between family members.