[hosh]

Agreed. Though I will also say, how to achieve this is exactly what is taught in Crucial Conversations.

Crucial conversations are moments when (1) opinions vary, (2) stakes are high, and (3) emotions run strong. How to have them, how to recognize when stakes start ramping up and people go into fight-or-flight, how to shift out of that, are all covered.

It starts with oneself and then the important relationships in our lives. Most of us have difficulty with crucial conversations with people we care about and our close relations. If we cannot even share meaning with people close to us, then we have no hope of sharing meaning with strangers.

This is what I have been working on myself. It has been challenging. And though I have not fully mastered it, I see a lot of results and relief.

[night815]

Yes, these discussions need to start happening on a personal, 1-on-1 level. Having these conversations on twitter or on some tv/radio talk show is too intense.

What would be interesting is reading a discussion by two thought leaders that could happen over email (read: slow medium of communication) and edited to bring out the best of each side. Heat of the moment discussions don't help anyone.

Going to take a look at Crucial Conversations. Thanks!