[ryandvm]

I interviewed with Facebook a few years ago. Even before going I had already done the math and decided that based on everything I knew about their compensation, there was no way I could move my family out there without a severe reduction in quality of life.

No matter how I sliced it, I was looking at least a few of the following:

   * Quadrupling our mortgage
   * Picking up a 30-60 minute commute
   * Sending my kids to either expensive private schools or terrible public ones

In the end, we ended up moving from the Midwest to Charleston, SC. It's obviously not SV, but it has a pretty vibrant tech scene. But more importantly, it's just a great place to raise a family. Reasonable cost of living, excellent career opportunities, and the recreational opportunities are endless.

Good luck, pal! I hope you make the right choice.